In the end, you will not be remembered for your net worth, your follower count, or your efficiency. You will be remembered for the space you held for others and the space they held for you.
Because the only metric that matters at the end of your life is this: Who is sitting in the waiting room? friends index
The hardest part of the Friends Index is realizing that to someone else. Are you showing up? Are you asking the hard questions? Or are you just broadcasting your own life? How to Curate, Not Cut The goal of the Friends Index is not to leave you alone. It is not a ruthless culling of your Christmas card list. The goal is allocation . In the end, you will not be remembered
More importantly, who would call you ? Once you start tracking your Friends Index, you will notice patterns that are uncomfortable to admit. You will see the "Zombie Friendships"—the ones that died two years ago but are still walking around because nobody has the courage to say goodbye. You will see the "Convenience Friends"—the ones who only text you when they are stuck in traffic or waiting for a flight. The hardest part of the Friends Index is
So, audit your circle. Not with judgment, but with gratitude. Let the low-index friendships fade into the polite periphery. Pour your heart into the high-index ones. And strive, every day, to be a high-index friend to someone else.